Gay marriage or as it should be call marriage is something that is very important to me, and has been since I was little. I have always know that I wanted to get married and to have a family of my own, the only thing that has changed is that as I finally came to terms with the fact that I was gay, a wife became a husband. For me personally I have always wanted to find that person that I love and am meant to spend the rest of my life with. The person that I want to build a family with, the house, kids, minivan the whole nine yards, and a big part of that is marriage.
It is marriage that provides the firm foundation on which a family can be built. It is when you stand in front of all the those in your life (and the world) and promise your life no matter what to the man that you wish to spend the rest of your life with, and they witness this promise. It is cementing something even more firmly then any other promise, it is the ultimate promise that any once can make, the promise to stand by their man, to stand by him in the good times and the bad, when life is plentiful and when it is lean, threw good health and bad, until the very end. To me this is not only a legal promise but more importantly a sacred one two, one that can and should never be taken lightly.
It is the foundation on which to build a life together, as it provides for the ability to provide and protect one another, to insure the ability to care for each other when you are not able to care for your self. To insure that the one that you love is provided for and protected, whether that means being able to put them on your insurance plan at work to insure that they can receive the health care that they need, or to insure that should the unthinkable happen that they are provided for, that they can receive the survivor benefits from your pension and Social Security. To insure that no one can step in and take away from them all that you had built together, that no one can take the home that you had built together away form them. It is with this base of security that a family can be started.
To me marriage is an important base to starting a family because it provides stability and a since of security to the kids that will be brought into it, a since of security that to me just can't be matched by any other means. It also provides for joint care and custody of the kids as well, it means that both parents can make important decisions on behalf of the kids, that if one parent is not able to the other can. That should something horrible happen there would be someone recognized by law and by society left to care for them. It allows for being able to jointly provide for them, and jointly be recognized as the legal parents.
Marriage is not simply an abstract, it is something that is universal understood, it is not some strange kind of contract like civil unions and domestic partnerships. Every one no matter where they are know what it means to be married, unlike domestic partnered if that's what you even call it (to me it sounds more like some sort of business arrangement's then a symbol of a life long commitment) It is something that is recognized from the hospital to the bank, it dose not need any explaining. it is powerful.
When I say I want marriage it is not because I want to change what marriage means, it is because to me what marriage means is extremely powerful and extremely important, it is not a concept that I take lightly. It is something that I value very deeply and that is why to me marriage is so important.