I was thinking about that advice yesterday when I was upstairs watching TV/ talking with Mom and Dad,
when Mom asked me how my date the other night had been (and she used the word date) and mentioned that I have been home relatively early (compared to previous dates) and asked what I had done. So I decided to actually say something and started to say that we had gone to one of his friends house and that I had had fun, unfortunately dad had gotten irritated by the turn of conversation and with out saying anything quickly got up and left the room and instead when on his computer. This was not terribly surprising as I basically had a feeling he is still not comfortable with the fact that I am gay (even after about 5 years) but it still hurt that he did that, especially given that he will talk to my brother about his girlfriend. (who is twice his age and has 4 kids) So it did hurt to have him basically huff out of the room at the mere mention of the fact that I am seeing some one, not even that I have a boyfriend but simply that I am seeing a guy. It makes it feel like I am doing something wrong, and it makes it clear that in the very home that I live in in not free to talk of one of the people that means a lot to me.
It also makes it seem very clear that he has no int erst in even acknowledging the fact that I am dating some one let alone that he will ever be willing to meet them. This would not be quite as big of a deal if I was living on my own, as it almost totally prevents me from having my BF to my place for anything and forces me (and my BF) to only ever be able to do things out or try to find time for us time around his 3 other roommates.(and their band)