I really wish that I felt introducing Dad to Adam would be as easy as it should be, and as I feel Adam would like it to be, however I think that it is something that will not go over very well with dad at all.
For the first thing when I came out to him things did not go well, and I did not find out how totally unwell until several years latter when mom told me how poorly, all that I remember was not being talked to for at least a month, then their is the fact that "that part of my life" is never brought up or talked about by dad. It is ignored like as if doing so will cause it to go away, a trait of his that indicates for the most part that he is really not comfortable and especially not happy about something is when it totally ignores it and refuses to talk about it. up to this point that unspoken arrangement has worked out, where dad dose not ask about that part of my personal life, (or the few time he has asked something and I mentioned it he never asked about that again) and I don't tell him about it. I have never told him about any one that I have ever dated or any date I have goon on let alone any one that I was interested in and he has never asked. I sincerely feal and my worry is that an attempt to introduce him to Adam will cause lots of unnecessary turmoil, not only for my relationship with dad but also for his relation ship with others in my family most specifically Mom who is a very strong Alie when it comes to my relationship and was when and ever since I came out, as well as my brother, and I don't feel that it is in my best interest let alone my desire to cause that sort of trouble.
Part of this comes from the fact that from when I tell him I'm going out and that I have plans but will not elaborate it's clear that they are of a dating nature just as when my brother has plans with his GF. The other part is that Mom mentioned to him one night that I had a dinner date the next day (with Adam but did not say with who) because it was going to be after I got of work the next day, and she would not be home but he would, (so she wanted he not wondering why I did not come home and worrying) and all he did to acknowledge that was make a sort of grunt sound. Then the next day when I did get home in an obviously good mood he did not even ask me about the date. But the bigger thing is that unlike Mom and Grandma, who are both excited about the fact in dating was the fact that he did not seem excited at all, and did not acknowledge Mom in any sort of real way. It makes me feel, and worry, that he is not ready to be introduced to someone that I am dating let alone deal with the fact that I am dating someone.
I would truly love any suggestions and feedback that any of you my readers have, as I truly do need some help with this one. I always appreciate feedback and comment, and will read and reply to all of them. Thank you so much for fallowing along with me and all the help that you provide.