in part because not only do you suddenly have so many choices when before you may have had that odd one here or there that you meet there a friend or at some sort of party or gathering by happenstance, and found out they where gay and single, now you have a plethora of people that you now know are gay and single, as well as with in a tightly defined age range. Then no matter the site they are all laid out preity simerly, they will give you a small thumb nail clip and a little self written teaser summery about each person as you scan down the list. It may sound horribly shallow but every one knows they do it (I will even admit to it) they will look at the profile pic first before even going on to the summery, and then if you are intrigued you will click on the pick and drag up the profile. This then creates the situation where people are presented with so many choices that they start going for the absolutely best looking people that they can find, even, and yes I know this sounds harsh, when they know that those people are out of their league or they would never actually go up to them in person and talk to them. I know that when it comes to me in all honesty I tend to not message any one, as I'm way to passive and kind of hope that they will notice that I have viewed their profile, and that they will then view mine like what they see and at least want to say HI, but I have realistic expectations that I am not going to wind up having the attention of the cream of the crop looks guy as he is way out of my league.(and unless he is really not into looks and is looking for a screwy nut job I don't stand much of a chance)
Now we get to the next part which is the fact that very few people turn out to be exactly how YOU picture them to be based on their profile, after all the pictures they post (like yours) are the most faltering ones of them selves, your knowledge of them is in large part based on a written summery and text interaction with them up until usually the first day, which is when you normally meet them in person for the fist time. Text dose not convey a persons voice, it's pitch, their manorisms, their habits, how they laugh, if they have any strange like twitches or nervous habits etc, and the picture only convey so much information to. So quite often you wind up creating a narrative to fill in the blanks to make a whole person, of course this is based in large part on what you want them to be, so their is always surprise when you actually meet them in person and they don't speak in the voice you have pictured, or act how you have imagined. Some times this is something that is easily gotten past as the things that you had in common, the things that attracted you to each others, and then actual chemistry now that you have meet them in person make them pretty much relevant, but other times they are such big glaring difference even thought they are not things that the person lied about, that what had been promising suddenly fizzles because the person the was is not the person that actually is.
As always thank you for reading, comments and freed back are always welcome. :-)